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Posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:42:48
In reply to RE: Mrs. C.-I love you guys! » susielalala, posted by sexylexy on March 18, 2004, at 19:32:15
Lexy..you are so right there are so many ups and downs...When I first started without everyone on the posts I would have probably given up and if I hadnt it would have been 100 times harder without everyone on here because the knowledge I got on these posts were invaluable...I could realize that I wasnt alone and that I wasnt feeling anything that everyone hadnt felt and everyone kept telling me to ride it out and I did and feel better..I'm afraid that I'm starting to slip again not sure if it is because of the dental work I had done yesterday and the stress from that or worrying about the upcoming baby shower next week or just worrying that I dont deserve to feel better and it is going to end...I am due for my cycle and that worries me also since last month it was terrible but wasnt on Lex that long..We all know how we can obsess about things and I guess I'm rattling tonight..Just feeling a little depressed and anxious and not feeling that great...I'm done..I'm really excited that Emily is finally starting to see some difference and feeling better..>I'm glad that Mrs C. is back..and I'm really excited about the upcoming engagement hahahah...I'm glad I found all of you..and thank you so much for sharing...Take care and talk to you soon...Mystic
Posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:50:43
In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16
Mrs C. so glad to hear from you..was worried...I started my therapy yesterday and it was good just like you last week..She is an older woman and is very interested in helping me...I dont know if I meantioned I know someone else on the posts mentioned this..but I was abused from an uncle when I was very young and when you start therapy it is like therapists just fixate on those things I feel that I have moved on..The one thing I wanted to share because I know that somone else had mentioned abuse with her father and just not sure who...But there is a therapy called EMDR and it is rapid eye movement therapy and it is supposed to be very good at this kind of thing I just wanted to share that because this woman that I saw yesterday also mentioned it so I think they are getting some really good results..I didnt know who to pass that to...I'm going to pass on that for now but maybe in the future...I'm not going to confront the abuser as he already knows...I feel that anyone that gets therapy needs to feel comfortable and secure with a therapist and tell them what they need and want out of the sessions and that is the exact question that the therapist asked me yesterday ...the first time in years and years of therapy...So that comes with age being assertive about your needs...I'm glad that you found someone that is good we all need some help sometimes and I pray that it works out for you...Take care of yourself and talk to you soon...Mystic
Posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 21:45:33
In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16
Evening jlynne not remembering if I got to you tonight I'm very spacy and anxious tonight..But wanted to check in on you and hope that you had a good day and you are feeling ok and the increase is being good to you...Talk to you soon>>>mystic
Posted by jlynne on March 18, 2004, at 22:58:14
In reply to RE: jlynne, posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 21:45:33
> Evening jlynne not remembering if I got to you tonight I'm very spacy and anxious tonight..But wanted to check in on you and hope that you had a good day and you are feeling ok and the increase is being good to you...Talk to you soon>>>mystic
Hi, Mystic. I know about not remembering who you've posted to - we are getting to be quite a good sized club, eh?
Well, I have been pretty wired for the last week, since I upped to 15mg; I feel like I have been rambling on like a madwoman. I am starting to slow down a bit now; getting nervous about it, 'cuz I'm afraid the anxiety is on its way. That's what happened right before I went up to 15mg - remember how timid and anxious I was about posting in the beginning? (that was a few days before I upped) Well, if it comes back, I have permission from my doc to go up to 20mg. I just have this fear that I will keep upping the mg's, crashing, upping, crashing . . . forever. I am not giving up, though.
By the way, that was me who mentioned the abuse by my dad. I would like to hear more about the technique you talked about ("rapid eye-movement"?) I haven't heard of that one before. I know what you mean about not confronting your abuser(s). (My mom was involved, too.) Oh, well, that is another story. And, like you, I feel that we need to deal with what is happening now.
I hope you have a peaceful day off. Thanks for thinking of me:^) ...jlynne
Posted by Magdalena on March 18, 2004, at 23:01:44
In reply to RE: Mrs C., posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:50:43
Hi Mystic,
I dont know if you will get this post tonite but i wanted you to know that you are a wonderful person who without a doubt deserves to feel better, never doubt that. I know that its been a bad day for you, but rest assured that this will pass and you will continue to feel better and better everyday.I hope tomorrow treats you with extra good feelings to make up for today.:)
Magdalena
Posted by Magdalena on March 18, 2004, at 23:09:49
In reply to Mystic, posted by jlynne on March 18, 2004, at 22:58:14
Goodnight everybody, i have a bad headache tonite and i think i need to sleep it off, i hope everything went well in everyones day today.
Tomorrow i have to get my computer fixed its been acting all weird so if i dont post in a few days i'll miss you guys but i will be back as soon as i can...i dont know if i could be where i am now without your help.:) *BIG HUG*
Magdalena
P.S- Jlynne, i think i might be crashing too, i dont really feel the drugs anymore, is that good or bad? i seem to be obsessing a bit more than i did last week...:S, i am on day 13 at 5mg of Paxil...i guess i'll wait and see.
take care;)
Posted by sexylexy on March 18, 2004, at 23:10:53
In reply to RE: lexy, posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:42:48
Hi Mystic,
Just a quick side note, my cycles have gotten progressivly better and hoping that one month soon I will forget that my period is coming up so I can stop freaking out when I anticipate it! Good luck this month, also, I know when I was first starting lex I kept waiting for things to get worse when I started to feel better, you know what, a lot of times I have a day where I am feeling off, however, I have been able to bounce back, since upping my dose, those days seem to be fading and I am feeling much better. I am looking forward to seeing what 20mg will do for me as I just started today. Good luck, sorry your feeling bad, as a therapist I might suggest that you keep a symptoms and feeling scale journal. Each day write your physicial feelings that this depression/anxiety has given you, I can give you some examples of mine, feeling broken hearted, feeling numb, having very negitive thoughts present in my brain ect, also a scale of 1-10 how you are feeling that day overall. Slowly you will see your symptoms fade, unfortunetly fighting this disease seems to be such a process which takes time and as much strenght as God will give. You will start to feel better, I know we are all going to come to a day where we wake up and feel comfortable and happy in our own skin.
God Bless.
Lexy
Posted by jlynne on March 19, 2004, at 0:23:45
In reply to To everyone, posted by Magdalena on March 18, 2004, at 23:09:49
> P.S- Jlynne, i think i might be crashing too, i dont really feel the drugs anymore, is that good or bad? i seem to be obsessing a bit more than i did last week...:S, i am on day 13 at 5mg of Paxil...i guess i'll wait and see.
>
Magdalena, you have so many things going on inside of you, I am not surprised that you feel this way. You are also anticipating the first visit with your therapist, am I right? Maybe you are a little apprehensive? That would be understandable; that little girl inside you feels very vulnerable.Also, you have some intimacy issues - how are things with your boyfriend?
Maybe some of the others here can speak more specifically to the Paxil - as I wrote to you previously, I had a bad experience with it. But it does seem that you are still doing so much better than you were a week or so ago. Am I right?
Sleep well, little one. I would sing you a lullaby, if I could:^) ...jlynne
Posted by mystic on March 19, 2004, at 9:12:27
In reply to Re: To everyone » Magdalena, posted by jlynne on March 19, 2004, at 0:23:45
Good Morning Magdalena...Thank you soooo much for your kind words number one...You are special...You are not feeling great and you reach out to someone else...now that definately should tell you about yourself...YOUR AN ANGEL...And number two...I was the one on paxil and it took me exactly 6 weeks to get good results..actually to really look and say wow I feel pretty good..and I had great results on Paxil..but the problem with the paxil and lex and everything else is we do expect it to just kick in and we are going to feel great...and jlynne was right you probably do feel better than you did last week but we are so wanting to be perfect...So hang in there girlfriend and it will kick in..you are also on a very low does... very low...I think in the end I was on 30 but it was good experience I had no panic and my depression was good..I was on it hmmmm 7 years...and EM was on it also and I think that she liked it too...So hang in there and I know you are going to get better maybe an increase would help...I do also know that when I was on it I had to take xanax a couple times of day for the anxiety and it helped greatly...As you already know we are all here for you and want you to feel better and you will...Have a great day and hope to talk to you soon...A friend Mystic...ps thanks again for your kind post...
Posted by mystic on March 19, 2004, at 9:14:39
In reply to RE: lexy » mystic, posted by sexylexy on March 18, 2004, at 23:10:53
Thank you Lexy...today is looking like an anxious day to me but will check in later...and you go girl with your issues...People can be just so catty you stick to your story which just happens to be the truth and try not to get upset about it..I know it will all work out...Have a great day...A friend Mystic
Posted by want info on March 19, 2004, at 9:30:56
In reply to Emily, posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:31:11
hi mystic...im sorry i mean to respond, its just that im not on the computer all day and when i get back there are like 50 new posts! i hope the dental work went well...are you on 10mg still or 15 now, i'm sorry, its so hard to keep track of everyone! EM
Posted by mystic on March 19, 2004, at 9:37:20
In reply to Re: Emily » mystic, posted by want info on March 19, 2004, at 9:30:56
Hey Em...I'm on the 10 for now wanted to get through my daughters baby shower which is next sunday then maybe will make a switch i have been feeling good until now I'm really feeling bad the last couple of days...I hope and pray that next week will be good..I can take anything right now just I have to get through next sunday...But I think that at that point I might go up to 15mgs..but you sound good and you are getting some improvement...like i said the drs and everyone want you to think that this is a miricle drug and will kick in way before anything else did...and it is not true for us and that is ok we can wait for the benefits and we are sooooooo close...so hang in there and talk to you soon..have a great day and let us know how you did today....A friend Mystic
Posted by LynneDa on March 19, 2004, at 11:18:40
In reply to Re: LynneDa =), posted by sexylexy on March 18, 2004, at 17:40:31
Omigosh - I'd almost be afraid to wear it out in public, in case I'd get mugged!!! It sounds gorgeous and sparkly. I hope you get the ring (& man, of course) of your dreams :-)
~ Lynne
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Hey Girls,
> hahaha, I am really excited and wish I were running around with "the ring on my finger". The ring that I like the best was a 2.00 carat Asscher cut (its like a square emerald cut named after the man who cut all the royal jewels) it has a layer of 24 smaller diamonds that go around it and 24 diamond on the sides and fron of the platnium, even the prongs have diamonds!!!! My hand was shaking when I had it on... BLLLIIINNNGGGG, just hoping it will be mine someday.
> Lexy
Posted by LynneDa on March 19, 2004, at 11:38:48
In reply to RE: lexy, posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:42:48
Hi Mystic - I read your post from Thurs. night, sounds like you are a bit down. Remember it's just temporary & probably very effected by your dental work, plus worrying about the shower -- that is normal stress. Unfortunately, in our "delicate" transitional conditions those events can effect us more deeply. But, little by little, you will be able to bounce back more quickly from your worry. Pretty soon you'll be able to take it all in stride and actually ignore those worrisome thoughts!
As far as your time of the month, mine has gotten better each month. I would say, after about 5 cycles, I have a few hours maybe 2x during the 10 prior days where I feel anxious, angry, sad, etc. Not bad compared to a full 2 weeks of wanting to scream at everyone or drive my car into the river!
You're getting there, don't give up!
~ Lynne
Posted by vandy on March 19, 2004, at 11:43:31
In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16
Vandy followed the bread crumbs. Jeez! I'm going to be very careful. Almost afraid to put a period at the end of a sentence for fear my comments will be redirected to a section for "that time of the month."
Posted by LynneDa on March 19, 2004, at 11:46:02
In reply to Mystic, posted by jlynne on March 18, 2004, at 22:58:14
Hi JLynne -
I never did mention how proud you should be of yourself to write about your abuse. I know you know you are not alone! Very brave and I hope you can make peace with it some day.I too worried about the upping & crashing. I am at 20mg and I think I'm going to be able to stay here. But, to get even better and remove some side effects, I may ask for something else. It is scary cuz I don't know how long I'll be on meds - for only a year? Will my brain get re-trained? Or all the way through menopause to support me thru the hormone changes? Once your anxiety levels are under control, you won't worry about all that so much. I can write that I am concerned about all that, but the good thing is that I don't obsess over it or let it bother me too much.
You will get happy and you will feel more balanced. Just hang in there and keep doing the things for yourself that you know are right!!!
~ Lynne
Posted by mystic on March 19, 2004, at 14:43:54
In reply to Re: Mystic » jlynne, posted by LynneDa on March 19, 2004, at 11:46:02
Lynne...I know that it is hard for people to come out about their abuse but it has to be said..They are not alone and they did not do anything wrong...we all need to work past the abuse and the sickness that was forced on us from another sick person...We were young and we had no control and that is the problem that most of us have is that we have control issues as to not being able to control things and think we are losing control..So it is my belief the best thing for us to do is to get the control back the best that we can and to live our lives to the fulliest and if this medication helps us then so be it...We cant go back we cant make these people feel bad we can only try to make ourselves ok and to know that it doesnt have to determine the rest of our lives...We only have one life to live and I surely dont want to wake up when I'm in my 80's and say shouldve couldve wouldve...I want to be able to feel good..be anxiety free...and to help as many people as I can ...I want to feel loved and make people feel loved as we should have all had when we were growing up...but we can get it now by being happy and hopefully depression free..there is so much out there that we all need to experience and see...Sorry this is the last that I will say on the subject and I truely apoligize if this post has made anyone uncomfortable I dont mean to do that I just want everyone to understand that we are all here to help each other and I'm very grateful..I feel that I have found a whole group of friends that care and that my friends is a great feeling..Take care and lynne thank you for caring....Mystic
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:06:37
In reply to RE: Mrs. C.-I love you guys!, posted by susielalala on March 18, 2004, at 18:17:47
I most definetly had problems in the beginning. I thought I was going to go completely crazy. I was very, very anxious. I had the jitters where I felt like I was shaking on the inside. I developed mysterious twitches in my face and my jaw felt very strange. For someone who began lex with problems obsessing over body symptoms being serious diseases, these side effects were very frightening to me. I wasn't sure if they were from lex or some illness. I found this board by chance one evening while looking for info on lex. From that point on I knew that I was gonna be okay. There were others going through similar things and were coming through them and feeling better than ever. I was given hope. That's why I continue to post here. To help others. Plus, I really began to enjoy conversations with everyone who seemed to really understand and accept me for who I am. I think I will continue to come here for support for a long, long time. Hopefully you feel a sense of hope coming here too. Having hope is the key to beating all of this. Hang in there. You'll be okay. Mrs. C
Posted by LynneDa on March 19, 2004, at 15:11:31
In reply to RE: Mrs. C.-I love you guys!, posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:06:37
Mrs. C. -
YES . . . we do love you for who you are . . . and for your wonderful, articulate and supportive posts . . . and the fact that you are a normal woman living a normal life, just like the rest of us hope to do! :-)
~ Lynne
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I most definetly had problems in the beginning. I thought I was going to go completely crazy. I was very, very anxious. I had the jitters where I felt like I was shaking on the inside. I developed mysterious twitches in my face and my jaw felt very strange. For someone who began lex with problems obsessing over body symptoms being serious diseases, these side effects were very frightening to me. I wasn't sure if they were from lex or some illness. I found this board by chance one evening while looking for info on lex. From that point on I knew that I was gonna be okay. There were others going through similar things and were coming through them and feeling better than ever. I was given hope. That's why I continue to post here. To help others. Plus, I really began to enjoy conversations with everyone who seemed to really understand and accept me for who I am. I think I will continue to come here for support for a long, long time. Hopefully you feel a sense of hope coming here too. Having hope is the key to beating all of this. Hang in there. You'll be okay. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:12:32
In reply to RE: Mrs C., posted by mystic on March 18, 2004, at 20:50:43
Hi Mystic, I am very sorry to hear about your abuse. I can only imagine how difficult that has been for you to overcome. I am also so glad that you saw someone and feel good about it. My therapist also suggested that EMDR may help me with my obsessive thoughts. It's worth a try! He gave me some websites to go to so that I can learn more about it. If you would like them, let me know. Thanks for caring so much about me and all the others and I hope you know that you really matter to me as well. You have been a bright light thru some very difficult days. Now that we are both doing much better maybe we can work through what causes us to do this to ourselves. I sure hope so. Life is so precious and I want to enjoy it! Talk to ya soon. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:14:42
In reply to To everyone, posted by Magdalena on March 18, 2004, at 23:09:49
Hope today was better for you. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:18:12
In reply to RE: magdalena, posted by mystic on March 19, 2004, at 9:12:27
Mystic, are you feeling better today? I just read your post and you said that you were feeling anxious. Hope it's passed. Thinking of you. Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:21:09
In reply to Re: Redirected Lexaproers, posted by vandy on March 19, 2004, at 11:43:31
Hey Vandy. good to hear from you. Where have you been? How are you feeling? Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:25:38
In reply to RE: lynne, posted by mystic on March 19, 2004, at 14:43:54
Mystic and Jlynne, you are both wonderful and brave women. Your goal is to help others and it truly is a blessing to have you here to offer your experiences to all of us. No one is here to judge anyone else and I applaud you for being able to rise above the abuse you suffered and try to be there for other people. Looking forward to many happy days for us all, Mrs. C
Posted by Mrs. C on March 19, 2004, at 15:27:13
In reply to RE: Mrs. C.-I love you guys! » Mrs. C, posted by LynneDa on March 19, 2004, at 15:11:31
Thanks Lynne :)
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