Posted by ClearSkies on January 1, 2008, at 17:04:58
We haven't heard it from her mouth, but she sent an email saying that she was trying to straighten out her life. Her sister called and asked about detox places and rehab - I sent an email to the family with a link for the place that helped me get well.
Phone call from her mother. Phone call from her brother. Heard that her old boyfriend is helping her get clean. Her took her cell phone away so she couldn't get more drugs - she ran away. She came back when her friend stole her stash.
So, the thing of it is - we haven't heard any of this from her lips. It's all second party, third party, chinese whispers by the time we hear it. My H wants his daughter to pick up the phone and say the words herself: "I need help."
Is this unreasonable?
In having her family members come to her rescue once again, we (he and I) fear that she is not taking the responsibility that she needs to in order to fully own her recovery. That actually, she'll agree to anybody's terms, just to get them to leave her in peace.
Maybe she does want help. But we're not hearing it. God, I feel evil, just sitting here. But our requests that she call us have gone unanswered. H does not want to help without that call from her, and I totally respect his wish. But is she capable of making that call?
I feel like a terrible person.
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