Posted by Dinah on July 7, 2016, at 18:24:23
In reply to Re: Emotional reactions to news » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on July 7, 2016, at 14:53:58
> It's great that you grew up with that mindset. I got the message that women were inferior, or even if they weren't inferior, were supposed to be subservient to men anyway. I always rebelled against the idea. Even after escaping that background, I still struggled with it, because it was so difficult to distinguish sexism from just run of the mill lack of respect and consideration for others. I'm not sure why it even matters, really, but it just still outrages me to think I'm getting treated as less than based on my gender, or to have others dismiss the possibility.
I'd be really interested if you could share some specific examples of how that was conveyed to you.
I'm trying to think of how I learned the opposite. It's got nothing to do with careers, per se. I think there was a lot of expectation on me to live up to my potential, whether as homemaker or doctor or President. It may be that I come from a long line of strong stubborn women. :) Or it may have been that although my father worked longer hours than my mother, he did most of the cooking and a fair amount of other things around the house. Whoever cared the most took over any given task. Battles were won on both sides, based again more on who cared enough to keep fighting.
Was it gender specific feedback you got at home, or a general tearing down of self confidence? Were brothers considered to matter more? Did a father's wishes always override a mother's? Was it learned directly or through example? If you care to share...
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