Posted by mtdewcmu on April 6, 2011, at 14:53:13
Do you have to listen to people talk down to you about "life" when you mention the problems you're having and they're not? I mentioned to my sister on the phone that my concentration difficulties were coming back and I was hoping to get some relief at my next pdoc visit. Well, she swept aside my explanation for what was going on (ADD), and proceeded to tell me (as she's done before) how everyone has troubles, everyone sometimes dislikes their work -- but, apparently, everyone else just sucks it up and deals with it. This is not the first time we've had this discussion, and, in fact, she prefaced it with "I know this is probably going to make you mad to hear, but..." After that failed to impress me, she goes on about how, actually, she has the exact problem that I have, despite appearances to the contrary. She has the exact same problem, but, she figured out how to deal with it. She solved it by changing her thought patterns/talking to god/changing jobs/whatever. Whatever she did because she was going to do anyway -- that was the secret to solving my/our problem. Here was my younger sister, teaching me the facts of life like I'm some innocent babe and she is some wise, worldly elder. Do you find that you can't talk about your mental health problems to a family member without them acting as if because they don't have that problem, that they can speak for all sane people and try to teach you the things that you obviously don't know? It just adds insult to the injury that you are already suffering with.
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