Posted by Dinah on November 16, 2010, at 7:59:12
In reply to Re: FYI, posted by glydin50 on November 16, 2010, at 7:28:08
"I remember Ame Sans Vie, but his name doesn't stick out as great poster - i.e. someone who posted a lot and was a constant part of the PB community. It was a long time ago."
If I had posted, at the request of a grieving mother, who might have been expected to request the comments posted at Babble, and someone made the above comment on the thread that the mother later requested a link to, a mother who very well might think their son was cared about here (not without reason) and that four years was not all that long ago when a son is lost, I might feel very uncomfortable at the idea of providing that link. And I might feel angry at feeling uncomfortable. My husband might feel a bit angry too.
Maxime, perhaps I overidentify with that mother. Certainly it is hard not to so when the younger pictures of Michael stir memories of my own son's vulnerability and innocence. Maybe they do for Phillipa as well, as she has her own son. No one wants to hurt you, but neither does anyone want to see Ame Sans Vie's mother hurt, given the pain she has already endured. I respect and appreciate that you have contacted her and worked things out.
Perhaps, in this instance, the least said the soonest mended. Maxime has appropriately repaired the situation and contacted Michael's mother. Phillipa has thanked her for that.
Why don't we just let this be?
poster:Dinah
thread:970146
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20101029/msgs/970414.html