Posted by Dinah on June 10, 2009, at 21:50:18
In reply to Re: I did what you suggested Dinah((Dinah, posted by BirdSong on June 10, 2009, at 21:22:42
I used to have rather visible meltdowns on board, and now I don't.
I wasn't trying to be manipulative, although perhaps I was asking for what I needed.
Yes, there is a cycle. But some of the cycle is physiological. Long term stress builds up and adrenaline pumps out and I kept thinking what I was supposed to think. But eventually it went on overload and my best intentions went haywire. I hurt myself, I posted in meltdown mode, I called my therapist, I thought about hurting myself.
Part of getting better was recognizing when my body was under too much stress and I needed to take care of myself with medication.
It still happens, but now I can take medication early enough to use my other tools.
I don't think I agree that it's purely psychological. I never have agreed with the great axis I axis II divide. Some people have highly strung nervous systems and that leads to coping mechanisms which may not be overly healthy. If the arousal point gets too high, behaviors result.
Is it possible to use other methods? Yes. Understanding when arousal is rising below the surface is a great idea. Knowing when I'm angry or scared or stressed often allows me to talk about it and keep arousal low. But that doesn't always work.
Things aren't always what they seem on the surface. When my meltdowns happened, I was usually under some sort of stress or in an arousing situation. I find the same is true of Deneb, from what I know of her.
It isn't all psychological.
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