Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2009, at 12:53:07
In reply to Question for the married folks, posted by Tabitha on June 8, 2009, at 12:32:21
Good grief, I hope not. Although that would count for the high rate of divorce....
My answer won't mean much. We met in high school and dated for thirteen years before marrying. I think I decided I wanted to marry him a year or so from the time I met him. But we were both smart enough to know that we weren't mature enough to marry. During that time we had all the ups and downs of any relationship, and we both rethought the idea of marriage several times. Eventually we sat down and negotiated on those areas where our visions of married life differed, and with all that worked out, we got married.
I think that only works for the very young though.
Most of my male friends seem to expect to get married, and had no issue with the idea. The ones who got divorced still had no problem with the idea of marriage, and dated more with an eye to a potential wife than anything else.
Maybe it has to do more with the man than with falling in love. Men who have no desire to marry might be perfectly happy to fall in love without marrying. Where might men who have an interest in being married be found?
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