Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2009, at 0:51:21
In reply to Are you saying I should be alone for life?, posted by Deneb on June 7, 2009, at 22:25:35
Deneb, I'm not so afraid of you hurting others as I am of others hurting you. I've remember the guy from work you were seeing for a while, and you went way out of your way to be sensitive to his feelings and understanding.
I wouldn't worry so much about your emotional availability. Things like degree of desire for closeness or sex aren't good or bad by themselves. They're only good or bad if the two people in a relationship don't have a good match. As long as you are with someone who desires a similar degree of closeness that you do, the two of you will be far happier than would people who are not well matched.
There's no hurry. Take it slow and wait for something to develop. It sounds as if there's a lot of pressure to judge each other in internet dating. I think it would be a lot more fun to meet someone in a less pressured environment and get to know them as a friend first.
But that's admittedly old fashioned me.
Hold out for someone you like and genuinely respect. Marriage is a lifetime proposition and affects not just you and your husband, but your children too. Find a guy you think is worthy of those future children, and of you.
poster:Dinah
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