Posted by jammerlich on July 29, 2008, at 19:18:20
I lost one of my closest friends today and I cannot even to begin to describe the sorrow I feel. It's as if someone has died.
Last week, this person went behind my back and called my ex husband. She had to seek out his number because I refused to give it to her. I felt angry and betrayed, but I did understand that her actions came from a place of caring. We talked and I let her know the thing which bothered me the most is the fact that she didn't let me know she had done it. And that she told him not to tell me either. I thought we were on the path toward working things out.
Well, today, it came to my attention that she'd made efforts to contact other people in my life and had STILL not told me about it, even after I had explained my biggest issues regarding her contact with my ex. Wanting to make a last ditch effort to salvage the relationship, I called asking if there was anything else she wanted to tell me. And she didn't take the opportunity to tell me what else she'd done. She just expressed a desire not to be friends anymore.
And who knows what else she's done that I haven't yet found out about?
To the person in question: You said there were plenty of other people who care about me. That may be true, but they're here on babble. And babble isn't a safe place for me anymore because you will always be able to see anything I write. You have taken this support system away from me. And I find your actions even more shocking given the fact that you yourself have been the victim of serious privacy violations. I still feel such love for you, though. Only I wish I didn't because maybe then this wouldn't hurt so much.
poster:jammerlich
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