Posted by Leaj on February 11, 2008, at 11:48:52
In reply to Re: please be civil » Leaj, posted by Dr. Bob on February 10, 2008, at 23:26:54
Thank you for your response, Dr. Bob. The latter portion of my comment was not referring to women who experience the emotional feelings that define jealousy within ourselves. We have all experienced the feelings that we know and understand to be jealousy. When a woman or anyone acts on their insecurities (and we all have them) in a negative way in order to hurt other people then it is no longer a simple matter of jealousy. This is my belief. There are people in this world who thrive on hurting others. I don't completly understand it but it happens. So my point was that I don't believe that jealousy in and of itself is the main reason why anyone treats others in a cruel and disrespectful manner. There is something else going on there that has nothing to do with the person who is being poorly treated. As women we are taught at a very young age that women can be extremely calculating and hateful toward the object of their envy. The stories of Snow White, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and others are our introduction to the lessons that we learn poorly on the topic of jealousy. I never thought of the mean women in the stories as being jealous. I thought of them as being mendatious and self-loathing characters. And thankfully, I've never met a woman who tried to kill me, starve me, work my fingers to the bones, or deprive me of going to the ball. I've met a lot of women who from time to time experience jealousy (and we all do) then once they get to know me and me them things are fine.
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