Posted by ClearSkies on August 29, 2007, at 19:46:53
In reply to Re: Follow up interview with family » ClearSkies, posted by Quintal on August 29, 2007, at 17:49:51
> I think the problem is that the parents started off by trying to manipulate them into getting help instead of being open with them, so maybe they feel their trust has been abused too? It's a tough call. I'm sorry to hear you're having so much trouble with your step-daughter, I hope things work out for the better soon.
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> QYeah, well, I've been up front about the step daughter's problems all along, whereas others in the family may not have been. Her welfare is our primary concern at the moment, but often it comes across as "you should have done this" or "why didn't you do that" and degenerates from there, leaving me, glumly, to pick up the pieces, or not, as it happens. At the moment there are some kind of chinese whispers going on as she says one thing to one person and that gets extrapolated to someone else because she's not telling the whole story. So for the moment, I'm just sitting and waiting to hear it all from her own mouth, and discounting all others as "might be's". It's a dangerous game to play with one's own life.
Last I heard was that my step daughter wasn't planning to go to the therapy appointment tomorrow because her car isn't reliable transportation (that she got from us as a gift, yes) - yet she called US to make the report, and not the therapist. Her appointment is not with us, but with the other party - yet we are responsible. We throw our hands up in desperation. C'est incroyable!!! She can call us but not her own therapist? I have to walk away from such irresponisble behaviour and call it as I see it.
My message to her is steady and worrisome - that I'm afraid for her life and that the people that she chooses to be with will endanger her life. I've been persistent and consistent with this message to her for several weeks now, which would account for some of the silence. Who wants to hear that your step mother thinks that you're out to be killed, given your present path of behaviour? Well, yes, I am a wack-a-doodle, but my heart is in the right place.
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