Posted by Kath on August 3, 2007, at 19:25:37
In reply to Re: SO - now it's 'no' to rehab......... : - (, posted by Fivefires on August 3, 2007, at 10:15:08
> Will the rehab. ctr accept him back in the future when he's ready? I hope so, as where I am, there are just waiting lists everywhere.
>>>>>He's on the waiting list there right now. He refused the yesterday date. The lady phoned to see if he wanted August 21st & my son didn't get around to calling back, so I called after hours & left a message saying that he couldn't commit to that date, but for now could they keep him on the waiting list to see where he's at when his name comes up next.
I imagine that they won't want to keep him on the waiting list indefinitely.We've said that we aren't going to support him by letting him live here again, so if he does hit bottom, who knows where he'll live while he's waiting! Maybe a shelter. Oh dear! I'm sure we have big challenges ahead as to holding firm in what we've decided. But he's 'shot himself in the foot' this time, in that he gave a FIRM COMMITMENT to go to rehab as soon as possible & let nothing stand in the way! In the future, I'll just have to pull that from my memory if it comes to that!>>>>>>>
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> He knows he has a problem. There's a lot to be said for this.>>>>That's true, although he seems to think the problem is cocaine...and right now he's not doing it, but yes, he does know THAT's a problem. And I can't see him not doing it again. Yes, he's not right now, but he's living with us, no external stresses that will be present when he's on his own. I can't imagine him not ever doing it again & I suspect he'll really 'mess up' if he does.>>>
> Hitting bottom is often the clincher.
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> But, the worst part about hitting bottom 'nowadays', is often 'the law' becomes involved.
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> If this were to happen, he would lose many of his civil liberties and most employers these days require background checks, so such would alter his adult life. I'm sure you've spoken w/ him about this.>>>>>>yeah. The implications are huge. Unfortunately, he's not the same as he was before his psychosis in December. I'm not sure exactly how the meds affect him, but he's not the same. Not as easy to talk to or as sharp.>>>>
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> I'm jonesin' for some coffee as have fasting lab this a.m. :(
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> I have a little difficulty w/ CODA. Seems like the 'blaming others' of it bothers me. But, the more knowledge you have, I think the better.>>>>>yes, it's not perfect for sure, but it did help me get much healthier.>>>
> I can't think w/o coffee. o_o
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> 5f
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> p.s. I'll try babble later if caffeine withdrawal doesn't kill me first!>>>>>>>well, by now you'll have had your coffee!!!
hugs 5f thx for your support luv, Kath
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