Posted by dreamboat_annie on April 24, 2007, at 20:22:00
In reply to Son wants to go to rehab 'for about a month'......, posted by Kath on April 24, 2007, at 20:08:37
(((Kath)))
I'm glad he called you, but am sorry that you didn't hear what you were probably hoping to hear.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you, or your reaction, at all. I would have had the same reaction as you. He is making a half-*ssed attempt at recovery and it sounds like he doesn't want to do the hard work and turn his life around. It is a scary proposition - giving up friends, changing habits and past-times - it is basically starting over. As a recovering alcoholic, I tried the I'll just use occassionally, and it didn't work for me. I can't be a social drinker or an occasional drinker. Others can be quite successful at it, so try not to despair. At least he is willing to take the first step and from there he may be willing to go that extra mile.
My thoughts are with you and your family. I am sending you strength and good vibes to help you through this.
Take good care of you, ok
Annie
> Thanks you-all.
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> I didn't phone him. He phoned me (that's OK with me; I'm glad I didn't phone him though).
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> He said he'd 'messed up' on the weekend with cocaine & realizes he's not in control of his drug use & he needs help/wants to go to rehab.
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> I should be glad, but I wish he was in a different place. I'm trying to be thankful he's interested at all. I wish he didn't have his requirements:
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> - wants to go to some sort of short-term rehab; doesn't want to be 'locked up in rehab' for the whole summer. Wants something like a month or so
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> - wants to get his drug use under control. Says he knows he'll be using, but wants to be able to keep it under control.
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> He said that he'd probably be willing to go back in the fall if he needs to for a month or so. He doesn't think he can be away from his friends for more than a month! It seems so strange to me.
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> I feel SHAME about not being greatful that he wants to go to rehab at ALL!!!
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> I wonder what's wrong with me.
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> Kath
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> PS - we both have appointments with his worker tomorrow.
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