Posted by Larry Hoover on March 24, 2007, at 6:22:27
In reply to Re: I like this old guy but.... » Phillipa, posted by Happyflower on March 23, 2007, at 21:50:55
> Phillipa,
>
> You are right, I should just act like I always have, but it breaks my heart. He is giving me all this great advice about being a muscian, it is like he has taken an interest with me and wants to tell me all the important stuff. I really enjoy him, it feels natural and sometimes it is fun.It sounds like this gentleman has made a conscious effort to interact with you. I think, towards the end of our days, we want to share our wisdom. I think you would be giving him a tribute to allow this mentoring to continue. You would both be thereby gifted.
> I don't know how sick he is, he is still exercising and stuff, but once I saw him a few weeks ago and he looked really sick. I don't know what to expect with bone cancer that orginated from testicular. My dad died of colon cancer so that might be different and he was only 48.
I'm sorry about your dad.
Bone cancer can become *very* painful. And it can also be slow. My intuition is to not speak of cancer, unless he does.
> But you are right, I will just treat him the same. If he looks really bad, should I say something or is it best to ignore that?
I think a comment like, "It looks like you're not having a very good day, today.", with a pat on the hand, might be all right. You acknowledge his state, but not pointedly so.
I wish you both comfort.
Lar
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