Posted by Kath on July 19, 2006, at 12:16:43
In reply to Re: I'm Back my son's gone to B.C., posted by cloudydaze on July 18, 2006, at 19:52:48
Thank you so much for your support. It feels nice.
I spoke with his good friend yesterday & he told me that about 3 times over the past 3 months my son had been really depressed & had talked about his drug use problem. Even though he didn't do anything about it, it IS a first step that he does know & acknowledge that he has a problem.
Then I saw another friend, who said he receives emails every couple of days from my son's girlfriend & she says my son has been 'clean' from drugs for almost 2 weeks.
Initially this news threw me a bit:
'oh dear, here he's trying to clean up & his Mom won't speak to him'
'oh jeez, should I email him & tell him I love him & am pleased to hear he's cleaning up, but am still not in a place where I can talk to him'
'maybe it's better for him to have me NOT talking to him; might help him keep the reality of where his behaviour got him to'
Those type of thoughts go through my head. I'm pretty chilled-out though. Not worrying. Not obsessing. Feedback on the above is welcome though. I've got a phonecall in for the counsellor I'm seeing to call me. Don't know if I mentioned my husband's work covers it for about 8 sessions. And this counsellor allows 1 15-minute phone session between appointments. I think that is so sensible.
Thanks again for your support.
Kath
PS - last evening there was a phonecall from BC (which we didn't answer) & no message was left. I didn't know what to think of that.
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