Posted by Emme on July 6, 2006, at 7:55:58
In reply to Re: Accept me for who I am » Emme, posted by Deneb on July 5, 2006, at 23:41:56
> Change is scary for me. I don't like change.
Yes, it can be scary. Terrifying even. But it is probably worth doing. Someone said to me once, when I mentioned being scared of something, "Acknowledge the fear and do it anyway". I try to keep that in mind as I'm attempting to tackle some very anxiety-provoking things.
> Strange as it is, I *like* feeling bad sometimes.
Perhaps because it is familiar?
> It's unpleasant, but I'm glad I'm able to feel upset. I wouldn't want to change things so I'm happy all the time.
That's not what change is about. I think a good goal is to be able to feel a normal range of emotions that are in proportion to the situation. We all deserve to feel happy at least a reasonable amount of the time. Even if you're happy more of the time, I don't think you'll lose the capacity to feel sad when it's appropriate.
> My crises make life interesting.
But think how wonderful it would be to have your life be interesting because of enjoyable, stimulating experiences and challenges instead of crises. Emotional pain is not the best way to keep from being bored. If you have more constructive things going on IRL, then that will help you replace the crises.
> I am taking my meds.
That's good.
> I don't think there is a med in the world that can stop me from getting upset.
No, meds won't keep you from ever getting upset. It's a normal human emotion. It's a matter of degree. You don't want it to be over the top and it's better if you can reflect on it, put it in perspective, and then move on. I think therapy can help with that and if the meds are working well, I think they help keep the thermostat a little better regulated.
I think you're equating change through therapy with losing the ability to feel a normal range of emotions. But that's not what it's about.
emme
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