Posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2006, at 5:12:28
In reply to Depends on how much room there is on top... » gardenergirl, posted by Racer on June 30, 2006, at 23:59:41
> OK, serious answer?
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> I'm with Glydin -- there are some things that are inviolable. You know what they are for you. Is it, "don't kick puppies?" "Never vote Republican?"Well, actually...don't tell my husband. (shhh), but that one is violable. Depends on the candidate.
"Never get involved in a land war in Asia?"
What??? And fall victim to one of the classic blunders??? Never!
>They're different for everyone, but there are always some things that just aren't negotiable.
I agree. I think it's hard to tell, though, what can be negotiable if you look at it from another view, as Glydin said.
> Otherwise, it probably depends on the situation, you know? If sticking to your principles gives you no room to maneuver, then it probably won't be all that satisfying. If it's not on your list of Inviolates, then it might be worth considering where and how much you're willing to compromise.
I absolutely agree with this. It's a bit like choosing your battles. And if the measure of success or satisfaction is getting your needs or goals met, then sometimes it's more effective to move off the principle to maneuver for what you need. At least that's how I view it. And for a preview of coming attractions....this is something covered in DBT skills. :)
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> But whatever you do, don't get involved with a Sicilian in a battle of wits when death is on the line...Oh, I know better than that!
Ha ha ha ha. Ha ha ha. Ha ha. Ha-------------
Thud.Thanks for your thoughtful reply and for working TPB into it.
gg
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