Posted by Jost on June 12, 2006, at 21:52:12
In reply to Re: I'm (too?) needy » Phillipa, posted by llrrrpp on June 12, 2006, at 21:19:09
That's a hard question, llrrrpp.
I ask myself that question all the time--or used to, until I stopped asking and turned on the TV and found all the inane shows that didn't have anything about death, horrible diseases, psychopathic or other killers, blood, body parts, haunted houses, loss, angst, lame forced humor with a laugh track, or celebrities.
Now I ask myself why I spaz out watching TV all the time. Why I don't read a good book or otherwise improve myself.
If I had a friend who was going through a hard time, I'd want to be there-- but maybe I'd be afraid I would say or do the wrong thing? or not know what they needed. Maybe I'd be too distracted or disturbed by my own (unexpressed) internal conflicts or worries to do it.
I'm really sorry your friends didn't come through for you, but it's not because you're too needy.
I wish you weren't in a long-distance relationship. How long will it be that way?
Jost
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