Posted by TexasChic on June 1, 2006, at 21:35:29
In reply to Re: funeral ettiquette » saturn, posted by Dinah on May 29, 2006, at 21:08:43
I think when you say you're sorry for their loss, you're not excluding your own loss. You're just letting them know you're sorry for theirs. And if they were very close to the departed, they will probably only hear it in a fog anyway. I think the most important support is afterwards, when they're alone and it all sinks in. Then offering to help with stuff that is probably hard for them to concentrate on is good, like cooking and cleaning, thank you notes, helping with the kids, stuff like that. And just leaving them alone if that's what they really want (as long as you eventually check in as unobtrusively as possible).
-T
poster:TexasChic
thread:650210
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20060527/msgs/651702.html