Posted by Jakeman on May 31, 2006, at 19:11:36
In reply to Re: Can't detach from 22yr old son's stupid choices... » Jakeman, posted by Kath on May 31, 2006, at 9:36:11
Kath,
I lost my father at an early age, I guess that's why I asked. It sounds like some promising things are happening and I hope it continues. I have no children, I talk with my friends about problems with their teenage or 20-something kids and I don't know how they deal with it. I always wished I had came from a happy, unbroken family. Now I know that many of those families are no better off. And I know how difficult it can be to make the transition from being a boy to a mature man.
Warm regards, Jake
> Hi Jake,
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> Sorry - I haven't been 'here' for a few days.
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> Yes he does. His 'bio-Dad' lives in B.C.
> Just recently my son was in touch with him & seems to be starting a relationship with him. Bio-Dad left when son was 4 1/2 - very traumatic for son.
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> Bio-Dad was very much a perfectionist. I started going out with a great guy when son was about 6. Married 3 years later. Step-Dad & son have had a good relationship. I wished S.D. spent more time with son as he got older though.
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> My husband has been through a LOT with 'our' son, but has always treated him as his own.
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> I've heard that that age is the worst for a boy to 'lose' his Dad.
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> Kath
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> PS - My son is now at least talking about getting a job!!!!!!! THAT's a big thing.
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> I'm doing better at being aware on a deeper level that it's his life & I might chose a different route on the roadmap of life it I were him, but everyone choses their own route. Hard to remember for me though!
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> I think a part of me still feels VERY sorry for that little 4 1/4 year old & some part of that flips forward into the 'now'.
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> Kath
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> > Does he have a father?
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> > warm regards. Jake
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