Posted by corafree on May 6, 2006, at 17:52:52
In reply to Re: Help! What does 'moving on' mean to you? » Larry Hoover, posted by wildcardII on May 6, 2006, at 14:33:07
And Bravo!
It is about being self-confident (It's been such a long time!) in our choices and realizing that WE know what WE want or need for ourselves, and that 'our mother's or whomever', don't.
It may even be a bit about 'being selfish'. That is difficult for me. (Who am I fooling? Myself?)
I 'thought' I knew what I wanted, but w/ all the helter-skelter in my life and others' opinions, I, they, 'WE HAD ME CONVINCED' I couldn't possibly know what was right for me and go in that direction! So, I just followed and here I am, complaining since I got here, in this very secluded condo just a mile from the ex-spouse who cracked my spine like a wishbone (probably my 'IT') in this town I refer to as dysfunction junction.
I'm feeling empowered. But, that's the side of my brain that works the best! The other side is a little slow! What about practicality and details? (Are hostages considered codependents?) This is definitely scary!!!
love,cf
> well said Lar! i agree that acceptance is 1st. for me moving on is realizing that my life situation is no longer acceptable to *me*. that i am at a point where i want things to change, for the better and will take tough measures to accomplish this. i have to realize that i am sick and tired of being sick and tired and each person knows when they get to this point, i think. then as scary as it is, we start to change little things and move on to bigger ones. we move on for ourselves when we choose too. not when others want us too...
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