Posted by Glydin on February 24, 2006, at 7:27:44
In reply to What do you prefer - dilema, posted by LegWarmers on February 23, 2006, at 19:52:39
Maybe I'm a sympathy monger or something but I prefer a simple: "I'm sorry you're so upset" type of sentiment. Now, my husband and I have a little disagreement over what "sorry" entails. He seems to believe that it imples a type of blame or fault on the saying person. I tend to believe it CAN be an expression of regret for the person feeling their upset feeling without any tag of fault for causing it or really understanding it.
I do like being understood but I mainly like acknowledgement of the validity of MY feelings even if the other person doesn't really "get it", if they are willing to recognize my right to feel that way.
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