Posted by AuntieMel on February 22, 2006, at 16:41:29
In reply to Dehumanization, posted by Shame on February 22, 2006, at 16:23:07
"it's actually you that are the enemy"
No - it's some misfiring neurons that are the enemy. It isn't *you* because *you* are good. We are all good.
Go ahead and wallow a bit - it makes you feel better. Everyone deserves a good day of self-pity.
Then find something to do. Can you do any volunteer work? <right - I know it sounds trite> It helps to see there are others with problems, too. We all do such a wonderful job of hiding that side of ourselves. Many of those you think are 'participating' in life are actually doing their own job of hiding.
Help with an animal shelter? Be a zoo docent? Help a youth sports group? Tutor kids that are behind? Hospital? Clean the garbage off the beaches? (Or slopes, depending on your longitude)
This morning I felt like I just wanted to go back to bed for a very, very long time but I came to work anyway. And got many remimders of how many people depend on me. My mom needs to go to the doctor tomorrow, my youngest daughter needed advice on how to handle a school problem, the oldest is to close on a house next week and is stressed .....
If I'd hidden away I'd never have known they need me - and the desire to be needed is primal.
So - in a nutshell - sorry for the rambling - the best way I know to feel better is to help someone else. It pays back in spades.
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