Posted by Emily Elizabeth on January 18, 2006, at 18:18:42
In reply to LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!!!, posted by crazy teresa on January 17, 2006, at 23:39:51
Sorry, I just can't get behind this plan. It rather upsets me. Poor kids. Perhaps she should put the money that she makes into the kid's future therapy fund...
She claims that all of her kids are old enough to pick up after themselves. Well, maybe they are, maybe they aren't. In my experience, parents often expect an unrealistic level of compliance and perfection from their kids. And this is assuming that the kids are "normal." Kids w/ ADHD have HUGE problems focusing enough to clean their own bedroom w/o a parent supervising them.
A reasonable alternative would be to put the kid's stuff in a box in the basement for 1 week. It gets the point across w/o such a severe level of punishment.
I'm also not comfortable with how she puts her husband's stuff on ebay w/ her kids. It sends a message that instead of being a parenting partner, Dad is a problem to be controlled. It makes him look foolish and powerless.
I do feel for her and her frustration, but I think that there are better ways to address this. Does anyone agree?
Best,
EE
poster:Emily Elizabeth
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