Posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 20, 2005, at 23:13:38
In reply to Just wanted to say that I'm OK, posted by Deneb on December 20, 2005, at 21:22:08
Deneb,
Of course i can only speak for myself here, but I suspect that most people do not get angry about your musings about Dr. Bob. Many of us are in psychotherapy and understand how strong transference can be. We also all probably wonder at least a little about what Dr. B is really like. Many of us have posted things when we are in an unusual/upset/distressed mood and regretted it later.
However, I also can't help but notice that you seem to ignore responses to your posts that say things that you don't want to hear. I know that on a number of occassions I have thought carefully about your questions/comments, posted a concerned reply, and then never received any acknowledgement. In fact, right now I know I made at least one or two comments to you on this board that you did not acknowledge, AND right below this thread you started another thread saying that you are impatient for responses. I'm saying this not to scold you, but because I think it might help you get some insights into your relationships on this board.
You seem like you get stuck in a loop where you are very distressed, post some things that are very upsetting, then regret it, take it back, and try to tell everyone that really you are fine and don't need any help. Deneb, we honestly don't care if you are "sane" or "insane" (whatever that means). Seriously, we want you to be happy and feel good. You can be vulnerable some days and feel strong on others. We go through that too. You will be welcome here and we will try to support you.
But we can't support you if you won't let us. Please read and consider the suggestions that posters give you. If you are not ready to take a certain step in your healing, just say that. For example (this may not apply to you, it is hypothetical) you could say something like, "Although some posters have suggested therapy, I just don't feel ready to go there yet. I need to feel a little less depressed before I can deal with that." Or if you have fears abt doing something or taking a med, acknowledge them and consider sharing them here so that posters can discuss them and support you. You do not need to convince US about the best course of treatment for you. But, you do need to be honest with YOURSELF.
Does that make sense? Honestly, I have been thinking about these issues and you for a while, but I have hesitated to post them. I was worried that I would put it all out there and you would ignore my post and I would feel hurt. I was trying to protect myself by not getting too involved. But I figured that I should at least post this at least once in case other people are feeling the same way.
You are a spunky and interesting person. Many of us care about you and worry about you. Please take care of yourself and let us know how we can best support you.
Best,
EEP.S. Please post or babblemail me if you need me to clarify anything that I said.
poster:Emily Elizabeth
thread:590835
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20051215/msgs/590886.html