Posted by alexandra_k2 on December 16, 2005, at 19:31:09
In reply to Ideals » alexandra_k2, posted by Deneb on December 16, 2005, at 17:44:40
> I hope I'm not hurting or scaring anyone.
i think you are okay. and you know that people aren't afraid to tell you if they feel hurt or scaired in response - right?
> I sometimes worry that I might be scaring Dr. Bob.
i think he probably doesn't freak out as much as other people tend to at times...
good to remember he is a person who has feelings (in terms of saying things that are likely to hurt)
but i think he is probably fairly used to it...
i mean...
i think he probably understands (more than most people do) that when posters do go off at him... it is more about the past than about whatever it is that he did. and if you are able to remember that... then it has got to hurt less. not alleviate it altogether... but it has got to hurt a bit less.> There is hardly any information about Dr. Bob's personality here and yet I have an elaborate one of him. All that info must have come from myself.
yep.
> I wonder what my idea of who Dr. Bob is says about me?
i dunno. you are probably the best person to be able to figure that out...
> I hope the real Dr. Bob doesn't crush my ideals too much. But, then again, maybe I will be less obsessed with him when I find out how he really is.i think you will probably find...
that he will be just as elusive / enigmatic / aloof / reserved (insert appropriate word) when you meet irl...
> I've had negative feelings about Dr. Bob before. I won't write about them here because I don't want to make him feel bad. I think those things when I have a tantrum.yeah. i go off sometimes... i think it tends to be less about him... and more about other people who have hurt me in the past... but yeah, i do it at times... sometimes on the boards and sometimes with emails... but yeah, i guess it is important to try and remember that it does tend to be a response to the past rather than the present situation. and try and remember that he is a person who has feelings.
i remember posting something once about 'oh well i'm sure he can handle himself... and if you can't handle the heat you shouldn't play with fire'.
and he posted something like 'all the same i'd prefer it if things didn't get too hot in here...'
and so yeah, i think he can handle himself (and we have certainly seen him do that with some of the disgruntled things disgruntled people have posted). but yeah, good to remember he is a person with feelings. but i haven't seen you go off for a long while now ;-)
> I think Dr. Bob had to put up a lot with me. I'm sorry he had to experience certain things. I don't know if he is doing it on purpose, but he is like a rock when "dealing" with me. He's always normal even when I'm crazy.yep.
me too. i feel the same way too.> I think he is ideal mostly because of this. Is it all in my head? Or is there some truth to this ideal?
well...
i guess thats where you think about what kinds of things there is evidence for.
i mean... you know you were just speculating about his childhood and we have no idea really.
but about the other things...
we know people do go off at him rather at times...
and i've never seen him lash out or post out of hurt or hostility or frustration or anything like that.
but he is a person and i'm sure he feels those things at times.
maybe he is fairly rock solid irl too...
or maybe... the boards bring out the best in him because he has more time to compose himself before responding...i think he probably is fairly rock solid irl...
because it can be jolly hard to compose yourself even on the boards.
but he's probably not quite so solid as he appears on the boards...
because he is playing moderator
and
because the medium is different.i dunno.
i think about this stuff a lot too.
i really try very hard to try and be realistic and not to idealise him too much.
because...
in my experience that tends to lead to rage that is more about the past than about the present.i dunno.
i'm a lot messed up in some respects...
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20051215/msgs/589661.html