Posted by sunny10 on May 27, 2005, at 11:17:16
In reply to Re: my husband doesnt believe im bi-polar, posted by woolav on May 27, 2005, at 10:17:54
> Thanks for all the great ideas. However, I did take him to an appt with me, yet he seems like it went in one ear and out the other. Sometimes I do feel like he doesnt care enough to try to understand. But, other times he says he cares and understands..I dont think he does. What happened is when i was in a hypomania episode i did some crazy things and he is having a problem getting past it. So, he keeps bringing it up over and over and I try to explain that i was not in my right mind during that time, but he will say things like I knew what i was doing etc. So, its really hard for me too, because I want him to know that wasnt the real me, but an "altered state" me..
> Sactually, my opinion is that what's most important is that the altered states ARE a part of the real you... In my opinion, it would be dangerous for the relationship if he thought any of what he was dealing with was NOT you...
We marry each other for better and for worse, for richer or poorer, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH... maybe you both should remember that- I hear in your post that you feel guilty for doing something while you were sick. You need to let that guilt go, and he needs to let go of the grievance.
Yes, yes, I know, easier said than done... (I am being very logical, thus very hypocritical today...) sorry...I can't even do what I'm telling you to do...
Maybe you'll get lucky and the logic will work for you where I can't get it to work for me...
Mostly I am scared of "confrontation"... and to me, confrontation can even mean saying something to my loved ones that they might not want to hear.... And, selfishly, I am saying something to you that maybe you don't want to hear, but you can't see me... I can be more direct here than IRL.
poster:sunny10
thread:503321
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050525/msgs/503651.html