Posted by Susan47 on March 27, 2005, at 12:50:14
In reply to Re: tis been awhile, posted by Dinah on March 27, 2005, at 0:40:36
All right, Dinah, I think I understand what you're saying. And I agree that with some people, it definitely is acceptable to both. I'm not the type of person who ever wants to hurt anyone, although I know I do. And even though I don't know if I can ever be with anyone always, I guess that's my problem, really, I can see where an interim relationship with a married man can help me and him; and maybe, if the wife finds sex with her husband a chore (which I did with mine, hm-hm and quite honestly I would've been okay with him taking it elsewhere; I even told him so, and quite honestly, if we'd both been happy sexually with others because we couldn't do that with each other, maybe we'd still be co-parenting our children in the same household; the strain of having sex with someone I didn't really want was just too much and I had to leave; I'd have sex with him because I felt guilty NOT; how can that be satisfying to a man? Is it fair? I know it certainly wasn't fair to me, to feel like I had to have sex with him when I really did not want to).
In any case, as I've already said, I have trouble with identity issues so this may always be a problem for me. I suspect the reason I want to have an "affair" is so that I won't be completely known ... I may never be the type of woman who can completely be with a man .. so those infrequent passionate nights, the stolen moments, the knowing/not knowing one another, are very very attractive to me ... and I am sorry if you felt threatened by my attitude.
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