Posted by Surely on February 2, 2005, at 7:36:41
In reply to Re: Feeling Horrible!!!-- no no no, posted by Angielala on February 1, 2005, at 23:58:14
Thank you for sharing your story, it did help, but my two kids, 1 girl, 1 boy, are very self involved, and could care less about me unless they need something. I think the reason my little granddaughter cut her hair is that yesterday morning she told me that she wanted to be just like me, so I asked her why and she told me, "Because you're fun." My doctor is also a fan of my stories, but she isn't helping me lose weight. Last spring I weighed 243 pounds, so I got my fat behind on a bike and started riding, I lost 35 pounds by the end of the summer, but now I've found that i'm still losing. Don't know how that can happen, but I'm happy about it. Now if I can just get back to some sort of status quo with my son, I'll be OK.
> Surely,
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> I know to your son it might seem like the end of the world, but it's so far from it.
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> This is a random story...
> When I was 5 I cut my own bangs- right up to my forehead. My God Mother (my mother's sister) was babysitting me. Now my godmother is Bipolar and often gets caught up in other things when she depressed- which she was then... I know this because when I did it she started bawling her eyes out saying "She's going to kill me" I ended up telling my mom that my invisible friend "Freeda" did it. I remember the shock in my godmother's eyes... and the relief. I told my mom a few years ago about that and you know what my mom said, "Oh my God, how did you know I would have been mad at her".. then I explained that even then my mother didn't give my godmother a break. Things have changed today and my mom is my aunts main support... but I guess what I'm trying to say is: All little girls do it... especially when their parents make such a big deal about their hair. Also- my mother would have instantly gotten mad at my aunt for it, and if it wasn't for my little white lie, she would have also blown up.
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> You should be happy about your health improving and (I'm hoping that you are trying to lose weight with your docs support) losing weight.
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> It's not going to matter in 40 years, it's not going to matter in 1 year.... in fact your son needs to chill out with this obsession with this hair. Beautiful hair is nice, but a child cutting it herself is normal... and a fun story to tell when you are older. It's not your fault. Your son needs to put less importance on his daughter's hair and start patting his mom on the back for the good work she's doing with her health.
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> Try to relax... get used to the idea that it was a mistake and in the grand scheme- hair is a minor issue- especially for such a little girl!
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> Let me know how you are doing.
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> ~lala
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> (hope my story wasn't too boring or pointless :) )
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