Posted by Joslynn on January 26, 2005, at 16:04:07
In reply to me, posted by spiacente on January 26, 2005, at 12:13:18
I'm sorry you saw that email that was accidentally forward to you. That must have hurt, even though really, it sounds more like her own flightiness and indecision than anything you did wrong. I used to be a 15-yr-old girl, and sometimes they just do not know what they want.
To back up a step, I do think that meeting people from online, who you don't know in real life first, can create that potential for illusions about someone. It sounds like you thought she was one way and got your hopes up, when really she was another way.
Are there other girls you meet at school, in clubs, church, your community, etc., who you could slowly get to know better? I am sure I sound like an old lady, heck, we had big ole 10-pound phones when I was in high school and no PCs at all. But I do think that getting to know someone slow is still a good way to go.
Second, how are things in your life overall? Do you often feel suicidal about relationships? What are things like in your family or at school?
I know you feel like your life is over. I felt that way when I was your age many times. But this girl is just a confused person, perhaps bragging a bit to her friend, and she can't really determine your whole future.
Would I have believed me about that when I was 15, and all upset about Jonathan, Brad, etc? Heck no. But really, it will get better. if you can stay focused on your friends, developing your talents, dreaming about your exciting future, etc.
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