Posted by jujube on November 13, 2004, at 15:23:43
In reply to rattled ***HUGE TRIGGER***, posted by octopusprime on November 13, 2004, at 13:19:43
Like you, I find it hard to believe how a person can think a stunt like that is funny. Talk about poor taste. And, yes, it is hard to have any respect for someone who would leave such a message as a joke.
I can't tell you what to do, but I think one way to handle the situation is to just return to work on Monday and treat him like you would any other colleague - professionally and courteously, but avoid any friendly contact such as joking and talking about personal things. You have said that you already told how his insensitive joke affected you, which is a good thing. If he presses you about your new attitude toward him, perhaps you could just tell him (like you said here), that you find it hard to respect someone who thinks death and taking ones life is a joke.
Good luck to you. And, I hope your interview goes well.
Tamara
> so there's a co-worker of mine that i frequently joke(d) (past tense now, maybe) around with at work.
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> 10 pm friday night, he must have been out drinking. he leaves a message on my answering machine
> "hey <name> where are you? i'm out here with my shotgun and i'm about to blow my head off" <leaves his cell number>
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> my jaw just about hit the floor. i call his cell. this is his idea of a joke. he's like, "hey take it easy there, i think you've had a bit too much reality there". my reply is "yeah it's f***ing hilarious until one of your friends kills himself. bye" slam the phone in his ear.
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> i called him this morning on his cell phone because i did not want to be confronting him at work about this monday morning. i asked for an apology. he said "i'm sorry i didn't know you were sensitive about it, i wouldn't have done it if i had known you would have reacted that way"
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> i lost it on him. i've lost all respect for him. now i have to see him at work monday morning and i don't know what to do. who wouldn't have known that suicide threats on a person's answering machine aren't funny jokes? what kind of person does that? sick. sick. sick. all i can think is sick. sick. sick. i'm hysterically upset by this.
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> ps - i am interviewing for a new job on friday and i hope i get it. but i have to deal him for at least a couple more months. what do i do?
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