Posted by PhoenixGirl on September 12, 2004, at 21:39:42
A guy I dated became emotionally open really fast. We didn't have sex, but we fooled around, and he said he "wasn't ready" to have sex with me. Closeness developed pretty quickly, even though we only dated a few times. But then, apparently out of his admitted fear of being used by women, he backs off suddenly. He said "It feels hollow when we're together. I'm not sure there's even a friendship there. That's why I'm putting some distance between us." He said he didn't want to do anything else physical or to see me frequently, but that he "wasn't going anywhere." He also said he wasn't happy with his life right now. I did start crying on the phone when he told me all this, and I said that I had strong feelings for him.
He told me he would visit me while I was stuck at home after my foot surgery, but I have not seen or heard from him. He won't even reply to my emails. I think that is so crappy and cold. My feeling is that if he doesn't want to see me, he should give me a verbal explanation, and not do a disappearing act. Especially after telling me that he would come and see me when I was suffering after my surgery. He has just left me hanging, wondering what's going on. I think it's cowardly, selfish, and uncompassionate. I'm really tired of men who are really scared little boys. Aren't there any grown men around, emotionally mature men who know how to handle relationships and treat a woman right? I want a man with a capital "M".
I'd like to hear you guys' thoughts on all this.
poster:PhoenixGirl
thread:390134
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