Posted by RH on August 28, 2004, at 3:34:22
In reply to Re: Notes on forgiving-RH, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 26, 2004, at 23:45:38
Hi Shadow:
I don't disagree with what you have said, but I have seen forgiveness work in some bad situations, and I have experience with it also. I don't tell you this for me but for you.
Time helps of course.
But apparently, there is another way, a short cut. Remember, about 4 to 6 years ago, those tourists and missionaries who were captured by terrorists in the remote Phillipines? A couple of them were beheaded in full view of the others, and then the rest were killed by the Phillipine Army trying to resuce them, except for one woman, whose husband was amoung the dead. On the Discovery channel video she talked about having forgiven them, and how it saved her from going insane (or words to that effect). She looked at peace.
I don't know if forgiving fully requires a personal forgiveness, as in confronting someone to forgive them. It has more to do with letting it go in a way that says "you don't have me anymore, I'm free".
Other people want you to be free, too.
And yes, there's far too little forgiving going on. That is a big part of the overall problem, that causes generational problems, as you mentioned, and spreads amoung people like a virus.
Regards
RH
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