Posted by tabitha on May 30, 2004, at 20:08:57
In reply to Re: massive rant about being single » tabitha, posted by spoc on May 30, 2004, at 15:35:24
Go for it, spoc. The internet personals are the way to get dates nowadays.. unless you're fortunate enough to have a wide social circle or a job that brings prospective mates into your orbit.
I have kind of the opposite approach to blind dates though. I want to meet face to face ASAP. I don't want to invest time and get my hopes up through phone calls and emails, only to find there's no physical attraction.
So this topic reminds of a funny/pathetic episode from my single life. My older married friends tried to fix me up with the only single guy they knew. It was comical. I never did meet the guy, but I kept getting more and more bits of info about him that screamed 'not a good match', but my friends kept persisting, wanting us to meet. First tidbit-- when they mentioned that they had a woman they wanted him to meet, his response was 'you know I'm a Christian man', and my friend's husband told him I'm a good church-going woman, which I quite a stretch (I'm not at all the conservative Christian type. In fact I'm not Christian. I've had flirtations with Buddhism and a new age sort of church. That's as church as I get.) Next I learned that he lives on a remote piece of land, in a rural town at least 60 miles away from me, and the land is so rugged it isn't even possible to drive a car to his house. It requires a truck or 4wd vehicle. I drive a very urban subcompact, and I'm very unexcited about the prospect of dating anyone who lives that far away in a rural area. Next, I learned he doesn't have a real house, but lives in a collection of adjacent sheds with no electricity. I'm not kidding. I'm thinking Christian Unabomber type, hopefully without the violent hatred of people in technical professions (I work in high-tech.) I finally had to tell my friends I'm sorry, but it sounds like such a longshot, I don't want to meet him and disappoint anyone. That was my last offer of a fix-up.
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