Posted by tterees on May 27, 2004, at 22:41:21
In reply to desperate, posted by ceesea on May 27, 2004, at 20:55:54
Dear ceesea,
I really don't have any ideas that will help, but you said two or three things that maybe you can focus on.
#1 - You said "I don't want to die." Yeah! That is really really really big - REALLY. To not want to die is one step away from wanting to live. Actually live not just exist. Are you familiar with the stages of change? One of the first stages is Contemplation or Pre-contemplation. Just thinking about it, gets you started on the path to change.
#2 - You said "Partner." I know your partner is going through some tough stuff right now, but you guys are partners. You are there for each other. Always keep that in mind. For some reason, if you are carrying 20 pounds around, and your partner is carrying 20 pounds around, and you both start carrying 10 lbs of each others it is not quite so heavy. For some reason 10 + 10 lbs is not as bad as 20 lbs.
#3 - You said "two cats". You have a responsibility to your cats. And I don't care what anyone says -- cats do love you (and I am a dog person, with a cat I love, but a dog person still) Imagine how confused your cats would be if you weren't around. And how could anyone explain to them?
So hang in there. Please.
poster:tterees
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