Posted by Dinah on May 21, 2004, at 11:11:36
In reply to Re: Body acceptance, posted by DaisyM on May 19, 2004, at 19:51:35
I do understand, Daisy. It's what my therapist always tries to tell me too. And I trust him and trust his judgement (and I trust you and trust your judgement). At any rate I have all summer to mull it over and decide what to do. And to try to lose weight. I can't help thinking that the rest of it won't mean anything if I can't get down from my current 190.
I have decided that I'm not going adopt the "uniform" of the other moms. If there's one thing I learned about uniforms at Catholic girls school, it's that it's harder to fit in when you wear one than when you don't. There are hosts of unwritten rules about uniforms, and the people who wear them can spot a wannabe at a dozen yards without blinking.
I'm relatively certain there's a store or two they all shop, with khaki or black capris, simple shirts, and black or brown slides. I'm also relatively certain the store doesn't carry my size. I'm dead certain that it would be instantly visible if I tried to put together the look. And I'm reasonably certain that if I bought the exact same clothes from the exact same shops after losing enough weight to fit in them, that there would be a dozen minute details that would give away that I'm not one of them.
So if I lose enough weight (which is doubtful) I'll go back to my old tailored shirtdress, circle skirt sort of look that is the real me. If I don't lose enough weight (far more likely) I'll stick with the look I'm most comfortable with now, and consider less extreme nods to conventionality.
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