Posted by TexasChic on April 26, 2004, at 14:37:34
In reply to Mother Question - Was I Right or Was I Wrong?, posted by Susan J on April 26, 2004, at 13:34:34
You ALWAYS have the right to stand up for yourself. I've had the same situation with my mother, and I know it's very very hard. The whole guilt trip thing when you do stand up to her is manipulation pure and simple. The thing is, you feel guilty because you're 'supposed' to respect you parents. But parents are people too, and they CAN be wrong sometimes. If anyone ever treats you in a way you don't feel is right, there is no reason you can't address it. If they have a problem with it, it's THEIR problem not yours. I would suggest talking to your mom when she is in a pretty good mood, and tell her you don't deserve to be treated with disrespect no matter what the circumstances. Then map out some ways that she can express her feelings that are acceptable to you. Tell her if she continues with the yelling and doesn't at least try this, you will have to leave. Then you'll probably have to leave a half a dozen times before she stops freaking out about it. But if she's not too unreasonable and she really wants too see you, she just might come around. Anyway, that's my two cents.
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