Posted by katia on March 13, 2004, at 16:53:58
In reply to And then we all fall down, posted by tinydancer on March 6, 2004, at 10:09:55
God how that sounds so familiar. I do think it's also a gender thing. Men always seem to try and "fix it" and it's a great escape for them to "fix" their wife/girlfriend because then the focus is on her and he doesn't have to own up to his part and do his own work on himself. It's very frustrating and disempowering to say the least. Just remember, you're the strong one by admitting your stuff and problems. He's the weak one by letting you carry it all.
just my *charged* two cents.
Katia
p.s. I really like Karen's advice about walking away. Toooo many horrendously violent fights have taken place in my past relationships because of the timing of our communication. It's not going to get any better by hanging around and engaging when tempers are flared. Even though it's hard to turn when you're just as MAD!
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