Posted by Dr. Bob on March 8, 2004, at 23:28:19
In reply to Re: ACA meetings/family » All Done, posted by Dinah on March 8, 2004, at 17:24:10
Posted by All Done on March 8, 2004, at 22:10:59
Dinah,
Gosh, I *really* appreciate your post. Sometimes I think I manage to get frustrated and angry with my sisters before I think about their perspectives. It was really nice of you to share your story and it made me think about my family's situation and how we actually all have different experiences even with some of the same circumstances.
I don't want to bore you with the details, but in a nutshell, my sisters grew up with a "different" dad, so to speak. He was married to my sisters' mom and when she passed away (they were 11 and 13) he started drinking heavily instead of socially. From what they've told me, he mellowed out a great deal after he started drinking. So I definitely realize that my sisters and I had totally different experiences. No one even said my dad was an alcoholic until my mom said it and she would always tell me *we* had to get him to stop. She never said that to my sisters, just me.
In any event, my T said that many people can have the characteristics of adult children of alcoholics. I just have to determine how much (or if?) they are negatively affecting my day to day life. So, even though I see the characteristics in my sisters, they may not feel negatively affected by them. I'm going to talk to him about this some more and then decide if a meeting is right for me.
I feel like I'm just rambling, though. I could probably go on and on.
Thanks for giving me a different perspective, Dinah. I think now I can talk to my sisters about all of this in a different, better way.
All Done
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