Posted by Sabina on February 1, 2004, at 15:18:24
In reply to depression wardrobe - a superficial thread, posted by Medusa on January 31, 2004, at 14:41:05
>> One, what do you wear when you're really down?
if things are really bad and i need to *feel* like i look better quick, i'm more likely to "wear" lipstick and perfume (or essential oils) than change my clothes. like susan said, putting some color up around your face "is an easy way to stop looking dead." scent can be such a powerful mood booster, too. some of my favorites are bergamot, cardamom, and amber.
>> Two, what's your comfort-wear, and is it the same thing you put on to fight the downward spiral?
my domestic comfort uniform lately has been a long sleeve cotton or fleece shirt, and sweat pants. this uniform doubles as my "jammies" and at 3:50 this sunday afternoon, i am still wearing them. i'm not depressed today, but i'm really crampy, so i deserved it. i do plan to *dress* for the superbowl. <snort>
>> Three, what's missing from your wardrobe?
i honestly don't have anything *nice* to wear, but it's my own fault because i have a mental block about wearing or buying really dressy clothes and i'm not sure why. it's a little embarrassing to talk about, actually. whenever i try on suits or cocktail dresses, i feel like i look ridiculous, out of place, and just plain wrong.
i don't feel comfortable in them, so i don't buy them. i'm more than relieved to put back on my quirky, often paint covered togs and hightail it outta the store. i used to buy the dressy, "not me" clothes only to end up not wearing them; but i don't even work outside the house anymore so that notion is wasteful and ludicrous.
even though i'm an attractive woman, i have grown accustomed to myself only when i look sufficiently odd. i dote on it. i had a skeletal disorder as a child and have striven to sabotage my looks a bit ever since, whether through dying my hair totally unnatural colors in my younger days to dressing like a kooky little woman today. i manage to "clean up" pretty nice...only i don't *want* to clean up for some reason.
thank you for making me think about this, medusa; and dang it, now i have to think about this for awhile!
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