Posted by Karen_kay on January 31, 2004, at 11:20:19
In reply to Re: One important? thing, posted by gabbix2 on January 31, 2004, at 11:05:08
I have to agree with gabbi. I know that some women don't like me. But it has nothing to do with the way I look, at least I really don't perceive that to be the reason. I think the reason that some women I work with don't like me is because of my attitude. I'm very blunt. I'm very flirty. I'm very loud. I'm rather rude. But, I'm also very kind. I do socialize with the women I work with, but some women tend to dislike me based on the way I am. That's fine with me. Take me or leave me. I really couldn't care less. But, I highly doubt anyone's jealous of me based on my appearance. If they are, well, I'm flattered :)
Now, to the original poster (sorry, I'm bad with names, forgive me please)... Maybe these women are somewhat rude to you because they see you as being somewhat prissy and aloof. If you don't socialize with them, then they would tend to find you arrogant in a way. If you just assume they are jealous of you because of the way you look, you may be off base. I'm not trying to be argumentative, just trying to add a different point of view.
You have a right to talk to people or not talk to people. But, if you don't talk to people at work, they would naturally assume that you think you are "better than them." I'm not suggesting that you start talking to them, but they may not be jealous of you. They may just think you are stuck up. Now, I'm not saying you are. I'm just saying that that may be the impression they have of you, if you don't socialize with them. See what I'm saying. And I'm not trying to be offensive. I hope you aren't getting that from me. I've just taken some meds, so I may not be expressing myself just right. Oh...If you are offended post back and I'll reread this and see what I wrote. But the ladies in your office may have the impression that you are aloof. If may have nothing to do with the way you look.
poster:Karen_kay
thread:306196
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20040131/msgs/307687.html