Posted by Racer on January 13, 2004, at 22:06:06
In reply to Re: The e-mail » Poet, posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 14:05:11
> There's hope? Excellent! Actually, I've met quite a few couples, now, that have met through internet dating....there are definitely success stories!
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> Susan
Yeah, that's how I met my husband, through his online ad. There are success stories, although I also experienced crazies, too. One of them was a stalker -- thankfully, not in good enough physical health to do much of the really scary stuff, but scary enough anyway.Does that sound as if I'm trying to frighten you? It should. I am. And I'm going to say this to you for your own safety: don't give out any of your telephone numbers. Take the guy's number, and call him. If he won't agree to it, he's not worth worrying about. I've been stalked, my friends have been stalked, and in many cases it was by men whom we hadn't even met yet. We, here on babble, may be mentally ill, but there are some people out there who are really nuts! It's not worth the risk, and you'd be surprised to find out how much information you can get about someone. The guy who stalked me from the online dating service was able to find out a great deal of information about me, including my home address, despite my being as careful as possible to avoid giving anything personally identifying away. I didn't even use my home email account, but set up a free excite.com account, so that no one would be able to track me that way. He still managed to find out my full name, address, telephone number, work address, work history, etc.
On the good side, by the way, my husband and I met for a first date after writing many emails, talking on the telephone (three hours, we couldn't get enough of one another), and then only for lunch. We didn't marry for another three years, but I think we both knew pretty quickly. Neither of us could believe it, that someone so amazing could want us, but eventually we convinced one another, and here we are. Since I express myself better in writing than in person, online dating was perfect for me.
Good luck, and stay safe.
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