Posted by LynneDa on December 5, 2003, at 11:15:13
In reply to Re: You Are Not Alone, posted by geri122 on December 4, 2003, at 17:39:11
Hi Geri -
I second and third everything sfmom and fallsfall wrote. I'm sorry that you are feeling rejected by so many people you felt were your friends, but there are very few people who are selfless enough to truly be there for you through all things. That's not to say they don't care, but more that they have their own concerns and they either don't have the emotional energy or the knowledge of how to help. If you have one or two really good friends, count yourself lucky!I've always been a giver, too, and as I've gone through the years, I've done less of that, unfortunately, as I realize how much it's depleted me of my emotional energy. Your emotional well-being is like a bank account. You can't expect to make a lot of withdrawals without making a few deposits! You have to find things within yourself that you value and love yourself for that. My self-worth was only as good as my value to other people. As Lyssa was saying, it's taken a lot of years of therapy to get out of that cycle. I'm 40 and still working on it!!
I hate that you feel so alone. What kinds of things make you happy? Things you like to do, things you value, etc. Do you have anything in common with your Mom in this area? Can you suggest an activity together? Sometimes spending time doing something inane like raking leaves or wrapping Christmas presents can open up conversation that is sorely needed.
Just know that you will get through this and we will be here for you! You can do this!! Just think about what you need and try to get it - do it for yourself! You are worth helping!
And a big, huge YES on the poetry. I used to write a lot when I was young and it was a great refuge and outlet for me. Send them to us or post them!
Have a good weekend! Try to get out and do something physical, even if it's just taking a walk. It will clear your head and give you some extra energy.
Your friend,
Lynne
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