Posted by shar on November 21, 2003, at 16:31:02
In reply to God I'm so sad. :..( I hope you will read this , posted by PhoenixGirl on November 19, 2003, at 16:54:56
I do remember you, and fondly, too.
I believe in therapy there are places for arguments--but more in the vein of "I'm so pissed you did this" or "I hate it that ...whatever" and being angry at one's therapist is fine.
However, from the limited knowledge I have, I don't think it is appropriate for a therapist to call one names (ageist) or for a therapist to bring up something in group that was discussed in individual therapy without prior permission.
I guess (from my screwy viewpoint) the point in fighting with one's therapist is to (1) take a stance and assert oneself, and hold on to that, (which is SO hard for me). And, (2) to learn that people can fight and not disappear. That is, that I can say to my T "I'm so angry about this" and she doesn't go away. A novelty in my life.
But, I'm inclined to agree with Dinah and others on this one. Maybe time for change or (if you really like her) to have a talk like a Dutch Uncle. Or, add a therapist to individual sessions (if you really want to keep on with her) for a while, who can navigate some of these waters.
Best of luck. Life is hard, and I'm sorry about that (for ALL of us!).
Shar
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