Posted by Susan J on October 28, 2003, at 12:17:20
In reply to Re: Welcome to the Club. :-), posted by john1022 on October 28, 2003, at 11:15:20
Hiya,
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> Thanks for the support Susan
<<Sure, I'm glad it's helpful....>
> You are right I do feel a little guilty. I can tell this is taking its toll on my family, so it is hard not to feel guilty. But your advice puts things in perspective, your right its not my guilt to own. And this to shall hopefully pass and things will be back to the way they were someday soon.
<<When I first realized I was depressed, and it was bad, I felt *very* guilty about a lot of things, including not even loving my mother who was trying to look out for me. But guilt is a symptom of depression in itself...knowing that helped me, like it wasn't really real.>> I would be by them 100%! You are right. I think they will continue to be supportive of me. Maybe I just have to be patient and give them time to understand a little more about what is going on. My mom went as far as to tape a program about depression on tv for her to watch this morning, so that made me feel better about it.
<<Excellent! Your parents care. But they may not always be able to support you in the way you need support. It's very helpful to say clearly to them what you need. Like when I'm depressed, I need my mother to *not* ask me any questions about my life. I need her to focus on other people. But *she* just sees her daughter sitting there, quiet and sad, and thinks she *must* do something to help me and draw it out of me.>
> Great advice. I will definitely not make a habit out of being needy. I BELIEVE that I will beat this and everything will be back to normal sometime soon.
<<You'll beat it. :-) I think I have, to a degree. Things are getting a little wacky again, but I *do* feel stronger this time around....We'll see.
Good luck!
Susan
poster:Susan J
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