Posted by Rach on October 22, 2003, at 23:08:50
In reply to Re: Internet Dating - Book 2, posted by Susan J on October 21, 2003, at 8:36:10
Hey Susan,
I'm not sure where Book 1 is - I've jumped in in the middle of your story. But here is my internet dating story...
On the website I used, I kept my profile private because I found that a million and one guys would try to contact me and I couldn't keep up with it all. I would just contact the guys I was interested in. I usually only emailed guys with pictures. I guess I thought people without pictures had something to hide (I know, a complete double standard!)
The first guy I actually met up with was a complete dud. He misrepresented himself completely. The photo he gave me was very old, (which he did tell me, but didn't tell me exactly HOW old!), and he told me he was looking to date and meet people, when he was actually just looking for sex. Had the meal with him, he paid, and we went our separate ways.
There were quite a few guys I enjoyed emailing, but never got around to meeting them. Either I got a weird vibe when I was supposed to meet them, or I just knew that it wouldn't work in 'life'. Do trust your instincts. I did meet up with a guy who I got along with, but for some reason I felt weird about meeting. Luckily I was out with a group of friends, so nothing too weird happened, but it would have been scary if we were alone together.
When I did meet guys, I made sure I told my best friend where I was, who I was with, what time, and that I would call her when it was finished. Sometimes I arranged for her to call in the middle so that I had an easy out if I needed one.
I was continually supposed to meet up with this one guy, but I always chickened out. I still email him, and would like to meet up with him sometime, but it won't be anytime soon.
That's because the last guy I met in person, I am still seeing. It's coming up to 5 months now. He wrote the best emails, and then we got along on the phone, and when we met up we ended up on a 52 hour date! We've been together ever since. Before that, I was convinced there wasn't a man out there that was relatively normal, adjusted, and caring. But I found one! Yay! So hang in there, Susan, you never know where your man may be waiting.
As to the man who wants a full length photo - that's kind of odd. Ask him why he wants it after he's already seen a photo of you. Maybe he has already been burnt and wants to make sure it really is you. I agree with what someone else said - maybe you should see if he'll cut to the chase and just meet for coffee. If he seems reluctant to do that, without giving any reasons, then I think you should give him a miss. I always made sure I spoke to the guys on the phone before I met them - have you done that? (Get his number and call him). That's when I could usually tell for sure if it would work or not.
Best of luck! Hang in there!
Rach
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