Posted by deirdrehbrt on October 18, 2003, at 21:14:52
In reply to Marriage Vs Depression, posted by Kristen_03 on October 17, 2003, at 17:56:46
Kristen,
I echo everything that Fallsfall said. She is quite wise.
I was married to someone who couldn't handle my oddities. Though we wouldn't have stayed together anyway, my mental health issues really got in the way.
We did go to counseling together, and it did help quite alot. Though we could'nt salvage our marriage, we learned to communicate better, and in the end we have been able to understand each other, and this has been a great help for our kids.
I don't think that you've let things go for as long as we had. We were in our 15th year before we divorced, and for most of that time, problems were stuffed away. We learned only after divorce was inescapable that we needed to communicate better.
I think that your thoughts on therapy for the both of you is probably the best decision you could make. Perhaps if you let your husband know that therapy with you will bring you both to a deeper level of intimacy, and that that can only improve your relationship might just give him some hope.
Talking about meds with your P-doc might also help your relationship. Let your husband know what is going on, and what avenues you are exploring. Keep him aware and involved.
Maybe you can ask him if you can help him through this dry spell in other ways. Help him to feel special and loved. I'm certain that this relationship is by far the most important that you have. Let your husband know that you see it that way.
I really hope that things work out for you,
Dee.
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