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Thanks, Madwand » madwand

Posted by Susan J on October 16, 2003, at 12:47:30

In reply to Re: Scary Internet Dating » Susan J, posted by madwand on October 16, 2003, at 12:22:47

Hi,

>>One would be to write to the "normal" one that has stopped responding (this is the one who got the picture, right?)
<<Wow, you've been following my saga. :-) Actually, the picture dude *did* write back this weekend....said he went on a date with another person he met on the service and *wasn't the kind of guy to talk to more than one woman.* OK, I respect his answering back. But I don't go for the not *speaking* to more than one woman. He had said he'd get back to me because he had a lot he wanted to respond to in my prior e-mail, and left me hanging. Just answering that e-mail and then saying like he didn't feel we were a good match would have been fine with me. Sometimes *I* need it spelled out loud and clearly, too. :-)

This was another *normal* guy who had written to me (*I* don't have a moral issue with e-mailing more than one guy at a time, I'm such a sinner.) :-) He didn't seem like a perfect match, but seemed really nice, and interesting enough that I wanted to get to know him better. But I'm getting a thick skin now, and it doesn't bug me so much. I've got to realize this isn't like actually conversing with someone in person...

>>"that's interesting, but its a little too earlier in the relationship to go into that level of detail".
<<Do you think that would work? That behavior is a little far off my *normal* meter, I guess I thought it would be difficult to get back onto normal ground with him. Hmmmmm, maybe *this* is why I'm single! :-)

I love to write and personally would prefer a little more time getting to know someone by e-mail before it took the next step (phone/date/etc.). I'm finding men seem to want to jump right in....

>>My apologies if this perspective isn't what you wanted, but I hope that a "male" perspective might help. Don't forget the "mars/venus" thing --guys do a lot better with explicit, verbal communication.
<<No, I really appreciate it. I do truly believe that the sexes are, in general, wired/socialized to be quite different from one another. I actually was very explicit to the guy who accused me of playing games with him because I didn't answer his morning e-mail. We'll see what happens...

>>Good luck!
<<Thanks!

Susan


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