Posted by fallsfall on September 27, 2003, at 18:22:30
In reply to Felt disconnected from friend, posted by Tabitha on September 27, 2003, at 16:09:56
I know that I have trouble asking people for help, or even asking them to pay attention to me. I usually think that what they are talking about it more important than my stuff, and/or that they won't be able to help me because my stuff is too weird. I'm trying to ask for help more, and break into conversations with my own issues - it is really hard. Most of the time, though I find that people really do care - they may not be able to help, but they do care - and that, in itself is a help. It is particularly hard when someone is talking about happy stuff to break in with unhappy stuff.
But it sounds like you tried to bring up your problem with your therapist. Does this friend know about therapy? Would she have the background to understand your problem? Did she seem to understand that you HAD a problem?
If she is a good friend, then it would be worth persuing it and letting her know how you feel. If she just doesn't have the experience to know about your issue, then it might be better to find someone who does. I recommend depression support groups - you are bound to find someone there who can relate.
Don't assume your relationship with this friend is dead. Maybe she was just having a hard time coming down from Cloud 9.
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