Posted by Liligoth on September 19, 2003, at 20:05:39
In reply to How do I help my friend to understand?, posted by NutMeig on September 19, 2003, at 17:40:20
Hi Nutmeig, I had a partner who did this to me when I was coming off benzos & doing it way too fast & feeling very crazy. My partner, it turned out was having an affair, but whenever I would voice concerns & ask if something was going on I was told I needed to go back on my meds as I was losing touch with reality & imagining things.
I think whenever someone invalidates our reality & our wholeness in this way they are being abusive. Unfortunately it is those closest to us that abuse us - I know he has been your friend for a long time & you dont have to lose this friendship but just know that what is happening in this situation is wrong.
Have you tried talking about this with him & telling him how it makes you feel when he does it?
I would try this & if you get nowhere construct some boundaries so this behaviour cant hurt you.
cheers,
poster:Liligoth
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